Feeling amazing & looking like you feel amazing are two very different things. In the reality of the world we live in, it’s easy to confuse the two. On days when you’re not feeling great, it’s too often we feel like we’re the only ones going through it. With everyone facetuning, highlighting only their best days, & real connections becoming more difficult due to CORONA, we can begin to feel like something is wrong with us when were not 100% happy every second of everyday. Although it is important to talk about how NO ON IS HAPPY 100% OF THE TIME, it is also important to talk about the things we should do when were not feeling 100%. This is a list of things I do when I’m having a bad day. Hope you find something valuable here.
Take some effort to journal
Sometimes how were feeling is obvious, but why we’re feeling that particular way is not. I’ve read (& heard on a bunch of self help podcasts) that a large percent of people who journal daily feel better & more purposeful than those who don’t. I have been keeping a journal/notebook for the last few years. It truly has changed the way I deal with my emotions. I trade off between a fancy, colorful journal & a run of the mill dollar store college ruled notebook. (A good pen is a non negotiable for me though) The quality of where you write isn’t as important as the time & quality of thoughts you put into your writing. Some days I just check in with myself, reread my previous days thoughts, & go about my day; Other days I go off on how sad, mad, happy, worried, or upset someone or something has mad me. No matter what type of day I’m having, writing out my thoughts & feelings always gets me feeling better. At least I care enough about myself to try, I tell myself as I pat myself on the back. If you haven’t journaled before I recommend you try it. It’s easy, cost almost nothing, & might be the best way to get you feel like you again.
Here is what I’m currently dropping all my thoughts on & with
Below I’ve linked my favorite journaling pens, journals, & notebooks.
(The journals are just some I happen to enjoy, but the pens are def my personal must haves)
Bath the pain away
Ever since I was a young girl, I have loved baths. For the last maybe 10 years, I hadn’t taken the time to enjoy a nice relaxing bath . The trend of Bath Bombs & bath products that resurfaced a few years ago brought baths into the forefront of my mind again (Thankfully, just in time). On a particularly bad day, (IDK someone was probably mean to me on social media) I drew myself a little bath to try & get my mind off of it. I threw on some meditation music, lit some candles & crawled into a steaming, piping, hot bath. At first I was so uncomfortable. I wasn’t sure if I was doing it right. I was in a rush to feel better. After my skin got a little more used to the warmth, the aromas of the candle enveloped my entire bathroom, & I cried a tear or two, I felt better. It definitely was one of those things that I needed to sink into to feel the benefits. Ever since then, I try to take at least 1 bath a month. Whether I’m looking to cry it all out or just relax my tired body, baths are a great way to turn my day around. I recommend adding some bath bombs, bath salts, & playing with hot water/cold water ratios to find the best bath fit for you.
Here are some of my favorite additions to a warm bath. Again you do not need these for a good time, but I find that when I put in a little effort into drawing a bath, the experience is just magical.
Listen to something that moves you
When I am having a not so great day, it’s nice to remember a few songs, or albums that change my day around. Nothing feels better than other people reminding me they don’t have it all figured out either, in song form. My go to albums are John Mayers - The Search for Everything, any album by Lady Gaga’s , or The Japanese House- Good at Falling. I have listened to these albums through & through maybe a thousand times each. Something about very successful people, laying out all their vulnerabilities always puts me in a much more zen place, turning my day right around. If you’re looking for particular songs, I recommend “Emoji of a Wave”, by John Mayer; This song is literally about how feelings are “Just A Wave” & truly one of my favorite feel better songs. (Chef Kiss). I also truly love Billie Eilish’s “My FuturE”, for its very strong, & empowering lyrics, yet dancey, singy-songy vibe. Lastly I recommend listening to Unknown Mortal Orchestra’s - “Hunnybee” & dare you not to feel enchanted by the pleasant trumpets, the epic guitar solo, & the easy vocals. (Do I know what he’s saying? No. DO I care? ABSOLUTELY NOT!)
These are just a few of my favorite songs to listen to when I want to either revel in my feelings or just try & get a different emotion going. Hope they help you as much as they help me.
Move your body
The last thing I recommend is a common one that most people ignore, including myself for the past LIKE 30 years. Moving your body not only releases endorphins, but it also makes you think about something else, making it much easier to feel differently about your day or your self. My go to’s are:
GO NOW. TRY It yourself.
I can’t say that the things I do are going to be the perfect remedy for you, but I hope my suggestions have helped you figure out what you could try NOW to make yourself feel better TODAY. When I say better, I truly do mean better, not PERFECT OR AMAZING, just better. I hope you remember that we are all human, & feeling up & down is not only normal, it is what makes us human.
Lastly I’d like to remind everyone that sometimes feelings are there for a reason; They maybe trying to teach us something, maybe are they’re to help us cope, or help us realize we need to make some changes in our everyday lives. It’s important to note that doing things to help change your mood, won’t change the way you feel about your life if you don’t like it, so get to journaling, take a bath, jam out, or move around, but don’t forget to take a look at what your currently doing everyday & weed out whatever isn’t making you feel good FOR GOOD. (I personally am cutting back at social media consuming & can honestly say it’s for the best)
*If feelings of sadness hang around for a little longer than a few days, it may be time to look for some professional help. Their is no shame in reaching out for help. Please know I am not a medical professional & all advice is personal opinion from your local lady who wants to feel better. Lol
Thank for reading todays sentis blog, see ya on the next one